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"Single Ladies" Adoptee

Claire Light - April 5, 2010

Whoa. Talk about an issues intersect. Anyone have a race-spotting moment when they saw this viral vid? Yeah, me too.

My friends (and favorite blogs) turned me on to this video because of the gender-policing moment that went bad. Three children in the backseat of a car start dancing to Beyonce's "Single Ladies (Put a Ring on it)" and the Dad immediately jokes to the toddler son that he isn't a single lady. The boy melts down and both parents jump in to reassure him that he is a single lady, can do that, and to apologize for "hurting his feelings."

But I was more interested in the racial component of the family ... and I wasn't the only one [1]. Turns out that Carlos and Heather Whittaker's already multiracial family went for more pieces parts when they adopted not-a-single-lady Losiah from South Korea. As per usual on MeanTube, plenty of other people got a cognitively dissonant eyeball kick from seeing Losiah in the back of Carlos and Heather's car, and made nasty racialized comments (at least, according to Carlos in the interview below; comments have been disabled on the vid itself [2].)

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Carlos and Heather are bloggers and evangelical Christians, complete with homeschooled kids. (Here's [6] Carlos' blog and here's [7] Heather's blog. And, yes, here's [8] Carlos' pastor Dad's blog and Mom's blog [9].) Carlos is both a pastor, and a tattooed musician who just released an album with Integrity Music [10], a Christian media concern. They come across as very Gen X, urban, Obama-supporting parents, with a twist. But I couldn't find any information on political opinions on hot button topics, and I couldn't find any information on why they decided specifically to adopt a child from South Korea. (The info may be there, but I couldn't find it.) Makes you wonder if they're deliberately avoiding any controversy.

That's a pity, because this family's opinions on transracial adoption (into a multiracial family) would be interesting to say the least. Their reasons for the adoption would be enlightening (all I could find on their blogs was an item on Heather's bucket list to adopt, and a fundraiser on both blogs to defray some of the adoption costs.) And, while whether or not to talk publicly about their family-building ideas remains their private choice, their true take on exposing their kids to public scrutiny -- and racial backlash -- is already overdue, given the fact that they've chosen to go public with it on national TV.

Plus, in light of the viral vid, I just wanna find out about their gender/sexuality issues. If Losiah grew up to be this kind of "Single Ladies" fan, [11] would his parents' reaction skew more evangelical Christian, or more tattooed, urban, Obama-supporter?

But, regardless of all these issues, it's nice to see such an "unusual" family highlighted for reasons that have nothing to do with their race, religion, or politics. Perhaps it's because they're no longer that unusual. Welcome to the 21st century!

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